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Responsive vs. Spontaneous Desire: Why You May Not Feel “In the Mood” Until Intimacy Begins

By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW. Have you ever wondered why you rarely seem to be “in the mood” anymore? Maybe you love your partner. You still find them attractive. You enjoy sex once it gets started—but you rarely experience that sudden urge to initiate intimacy. This

Why Do I Feel Guilty About Sex? Understanding Sexual Guilt

By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW. Have you ever felt guilty for wanting sex, enjoying sex, thinking about sex, or even talking about what you want? Maybe you were raised with messages that sex shouldn’t be discussed. Perhaps certain desires make you question yourself. You might feel

Why Do I Shut Down During Intimacy? Understanding the Freeze Response

By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW. Have you ever been in an intimate moment and suddenly felt disconnected? Maybe your mind went blank. Your body became tense. You stopped feeling present, found it difficult to communicate what you wanted, or simply wanted the moment to be over—even

What Happens in Sex Therapy? What to Expect From Your First Session

By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW. Initiating sex can feel surprisingly vulnerable. If you’ve been thinking about seeing a sex therapist, you may have a lot of questions about what actually happens during a session. Will you have to talk about every detail of your sex life?

Initiating Sex Without Fear of Rejection

By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW. Initiating sex can feel surprisingly vulnerable. Even in a loving, committed relationship, making the first move means putting yourself out there. You’re expressing desire and asking your partner to meet you in an intimate space—and there’s always a possibility that they

Why Do I Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm? Understanding the Emotional Side of Orgasm

By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I orgasm?” or found that reaching orgasm seems much easier for your partner than it does for you, you’re certainly not the only person asking that question. Difficulty reaching orgasm is a common sexual concern, yet many