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Why Do I Shut Down During Intimacy? Understanding the Freeze Response

By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW. Have you ever been in an intimate moment and suddenly felt disconnected? Maybe your mind went blank. Your body became tense. You stopped feeling present, found it difficult to communicate what you wanted, or simply wanted the moment to be over—even

What Happens in Sex Therapy? What to Expect From Your First Session

By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW. Initiating sex can feel surprisingly vulnerable. If you’ve been thinking about seeing a sex therapist, you may have a lot of questions about what actually happens during a session. Will you have to talk about every detail of your sex life?

Initiating Sex Without Fear of Rejection

By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW. Initiating sex can feel surprisingly vulnerable. Even in a loving, committed relationship, making the first move means putting yourself out there. You’re expressing desire and asking your partner to meet you in an intimate space—and there’s always a possibility that they

Why Do I Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm? Understanding the Emotional Side of Orgasm

By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I orgasm?” or found that reaching orgasm seems much easier for your partner than it does for you, you’re certainly not the only person asking that question. Difficulty reaching orgasm is a common sexual concern, yet many

Pain During Sex: Why You Shouldn’t Ignore It and When to Seek Help

By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW. Sex is supposed to be an experience that feels safe, comfortable, and pleasurable. But for many people, that’s not always the case. Pain during sex is more common than many people realize, yet it often goes unspoken. Some people assume they

Supporting Your Partner Through Body Image Struggles

By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW. Body image can have a powerful influence on how we experience intimacy. When someone doesn’t feel comfortable or confident in their body, those feelings don’t necessarily disappear when they’re with someone they love. You may deeply trust your partner and still