How Past Relationships Can Influence Your Current Intimacy Patterns
By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW., Certified Sex Therapist Have you ever found yourself reacting strongly to something your partner did — and later wondered, “Why did that affect me so much?” Or maybe you’ve noticed patterns repeating in your relationships: pulling away when things get serious, feeling anxious when communication shifts, or struggling with trust even when […]
What Sexual Compatibility Really Means—And How to Find It
By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW, Sex Therapist “Are we sexually compatible?”It’s one of the most common concerns I hear in my practice—and one of the most misunderstood. People often assume that sexual compatibility means having the same sex drive, the same fantasies, or always being “in sync.” But the truth is, sexual compatibility isn’t something you either […]
New Year, New Connection: Setting Relationship Intentions Together
By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW., Certified Sex Therapist The start of a new year often brings the desire for fresh beginnings. We reflect, reset, and make promises to ourselves—whether it’s to hit the gym more, eat healthier, or spend less time on screens. But what if this year, you made space to set intentions for your relationship too? […]
Menopause and Sexuality: What to Expect and How to Thrive
By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW, Sex Therapist Menopause is a powerful, natural transition in a woman’s life—but it’s also one that often comes with a mix of confusion, frustration, and silence. For many women, one of the most unexpected and challenging changes is how menopause affects their sexuality. You may have asked yourself: Let me reassure […]
Navigating Intimacy After Betrayal: Can You Rebuild Trust and Desire?
By Rebecca Ginder, Licensed Sex Therapist Few things impact a relationship more deeply than betrayal. Whether it’s infidelity, emotional cheating, broken promises, or breaches of trust, the aftermath can feel like everything you once knew has been turned upside down. For many couples, one of the hardest questions that follows is: Can we ever be close […]
Understanding Asexuality and Low Desire: Creating a Relationship That Works for You
Understanding Asexuality and Low Desire: Creating a Relationship That Works for You By Rebecca Ginder, Licensed Sex Therapist Not everyone experiences sexual desire in the same way—and that’s okay. Whether you identify as asexual, experience low desire, or are partnered with someone who does, it’s essential to know that there’s no “right” amount of sexual interest. Healthy […]
The Role of Consent and Communication in a Healthy Sex Life
By Rebecca Ginder, Licensed Sex Therapist When we think about creating a healthy sex life, we often focus on physical attraction, chemistry, or technique. But one of the most powerful—and often overlooked—factors is communication. And at the heart of healthy communication around sex is consent. Consent and communication aren’t just about avoiding harm or ticking a box. […]
Sex After Kids: How to Reconnect with Your Partner When Life Feels Overwhelming
By Rebecca Ginder, Licensed Sex Therapist Becoming a parent is one of the most transformative experiences in life—and also one of the most exhausting. Between late-night feedings, endless to-do lists, and the emotional rollercoaster of raising kids, it’s easy for intimacy with your partner to take a back seat. If you’re feeling distant from your […]
The Invisible Load: How Mental Load Impacts Intimacy in Relationships
By Rebecca Ginder, Licensed Sex Therapist If you’ve ever felt like your brain is constantly juggling a thousand tabs—coordinating schedules, remembering appointments, tracking groceries, managing emotions—you’re not imagining it. That feeling has a name: mental load, and it plays a bigger role in relationships and intimacy than many people realize. Mental load refers to the invisible […]
Reigniting Intimacy: Ways to Build a Deeper Connection with Your Partner
Hi, I’m Rebecca Ginder, a licensed sex therapist. Relationships are full of ups and downs, and it’s natural for intimacy to ebb and flow over time. Whether it’s because of busy schedules, life stressors, or simply the passage of time, many couples find themselves feeling distant from one another at some point. The good news […]