Let’s Talk About Fantasies: How Sharing Desires Can Strengthen Your Relationship
By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW, Sex Therapist Talking about sexual fantasies can feel… intimidating. Even in long-term, loving relationships, many people keep their desires private out of fear, shame, or uncertainty.You might worry: But here’s the truth: sharing your fantasies—with trust and care—can bring you closer. It’s not about performing or pleasing. It’s about honesty, curiosity, and deeper […]
Why You Might Be Avoiding Intimacy—And How to Gently Reconnect
Why You Might Be Avoiding Intimacy—And How to Gently Reconnect By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW , Sex Therapist If you’ve noticed yourself pulling away from your partner—avoiding closeness, shrinking away from touch, or shutting down when conversations get emotional—you’re not alone. Many people go through periods of avoiding intimacy, whether they realize it or not. Sometimes, it […]
Menopause and Sexuality: What to Expect and How to Thrive
By Rebecca Ginder, LCSW, Sex Therapist Menopause is a powerful, natural transition in a woman’s life—but it’s also one that often comes with a mix of confusion, frustration, and silence. For many women, one of the most unexpected and challenging changes is how menopause affects their sexuality. You may have asked yourself: Let me reassure […]
Navigating Intimacy After Betrayal: Can You Rebuild Trust and Desire?
By Rebecca Ginder, Licensed Sex Therapist Few things impact a relationship more deeply than betrayal. Whether it’s infidelity, emotional cheating, broken promises, or breaches of trust, the aftermath can feel like everything you once knew has been turned upside down. For many couples, one of the hardest questions that follows is: Can we ever be close […]
Understanding Asexuality and Low Desire: Creating a Relationship That Works for You
Understanding Asexuality and Low Desire: Creating a Relationship That Works for You By Rebecca Ginder, Licensed Sex Therapist Not everyone experiences sexual desire in the same way—and that’s okay. Whether you identify as asexual, experience low desire, or are partnered with someone who does, it’s essential to know that there’s no “right” amount of sexual interest. Healthy […]
The Role of Consent and Communication in a Healthy Sex Life
By Rebecca Ginder, Licensed Sex Therapist When we think about creating a healthy sex life, we often focus on physical attraction, chemistry, or technique. But one of the most powerful—and often overlooked—factors is communication. And at the heart of healthy communication around sex is consent. Consent and communication aren’t just about avoiding harm or ticking a box. […]
Sex After Kids: How to Reconnect with Your Partner When Life Feels Overwhelming
By Rebecca Ginder, Licensed Sex Therapist Becoming a parent is one of the most transformative experiences in life—and also one of the most exhausting. Between late-night feedings, endless to-do lists, and the emotional rollercoaster of raising kids, it’s easy for intimacy with your partner to take a back seat. If you’re feeling distant from your […]
The Invisible Load: How Mental Load Impacts Intimacy in Relationships
By Rebecca Ginder, Licensed Sex Therapist If you’ve ever felt like your brain is constantly juggling a thousand tabs—coordinating schedules, remembering appointments, tracking groceries, managing emotions—you’re not imagining it. That feeling has a name: mental load, and it plays a bigger role in relationships and intimacy than many people realize. Mental load refers to the invisible […]
Managing Performance Anxiety and Building Confidence
Hi, I’m Rebecca Ginder, a licensed sex therapist. Performance anxiety is something I see often in my work with individuals and couples, and it’s more common than you might think. If you’re experiencing it, know that you’re not alone—and more importantly, it’s something you can overcome. Performance anxiety doesn’t just affect what happens in the […]
Bravo to premier couples therapy show
Jessica Biel has been a busy bee. Not only is she married to one of the most sought after men in Hollywood traveling the world with him, but she is now the producer of a brand new couples therapy show. Bravo announced a slew of new shows earlier this month including a reality-type show that […]