Marriage is the beautiful union between two people who vow to love, honor and respect each other as long as they both shall live. Unfortunately, marriage isn’t always easy. It is very common for married couples to experience bumps in the road and it can be a very hard decision for some people to seek the advice and help of a licensed professional.
Licensed social workers have the tools to help couples manage the challenges that inherently come with marriage. Often times, couples find it hard to determine when the right time is to speak to a counselor.
If you’re a couple that is having communication issues, it may be time to seek professional counseling. Many relationships encounter communication issues whether it is a lack of communication, negative communication or even a fear of communication. Licensed counselors like Rebecca Ginder can actually help facilitate new ways for married couples to communicate.
Sometimes, married couples use affection as a way of getting what they want. This is a slippery slope because if one partner in the relationship uses a lack of affection as a punishment, there can be a lack of balance in the relationship.
Finances are often found at the root of many marital problems. Financial infidelity can be just as bad as sexual infidelity. Keeping one spouse in the dark about spending is unreasonable.
It is also important to remember that we cannot change a person. If you’re waiting for someone to change, you will be waiting for quite a while. Consulting a professional counselor can sometimes help a person figure out who they are and what they want so they can communicate that effectively with their spouse.
Sex also plays a vital role in the health of a relationship. It isn’t unusual for sex to taper off a little after being with your partner for a significant amount of time. With that said significant changes in bedroom behavior is a clear signal that something needs fixing. It is also true that an increase in sex can be a sign of relationship challenges.
An obvious indicator that the help of an expert or professional is needed is if your life as a married couple becomes more like a roommate situation. If you’re living separate lives there is definitely a disconnect in the marriage. A skilled clinician can help a couple sort out what is missing and figure out how to get it back.
There’s no question that major changes in a marriage like the addition of kids or a death can change the dynamic of a couple. When the love is still there, though, the relationship is worth fighting for.
Rebecca Ginder is a licensed clinical social work based in Delray Beach, Florida. She specializes in family and couple therapy. For a free consultation, click here now.